July 7

Our Journey Together is so Short…

“Our Journey Together is so Short” A beautiful message for all of us….Take a minute please

A young lady sat in a bus. At the next stop a loud and grumpy old lady came and sat by her. She squeezed into the seat and bumped her with her numerous bags.

The person sitting on the other side of the young lady got upset, asked her why she did not speak up and say something.

The young lady responded with a smile:

“It is not necessary to be rude or argue over something so insignificant, the journey together is so short. I get off at the next stop.”

This response deserves to be written in golden letters:

“It is not necessary to argue over something so insignificant, our journey together is so short”

If each one of us realized that our time here is so short; that to darken it with quarrels, futile arguments, not forgiving others, discontentment and a fault finding attitude would be a waste of time and energy.

Did someone break your heart? Be calm, the journey is so short.

Did someone betray, bully, cheat or humiliate you? Be calm, forgive, the journey is so short.

Whatever troubles anyone brings us, let us remember that our journey together is so short.

No one knows the duration of this journey. No one knows when their stop will come. Our journey together is so short.

Let us cherish friends and family. Let us be respectful, kind and forgiving to each other. Let us be filled with gratitude and gladness.

If I have ever hurt you, I ask for your forgiveness. If you have ever hurt me, you already have my forgiveness.

After all, Our Journey Together is so Short!

March 28

WHAT DOES A WIFE WANT

(The Age-Old Dilemma that Has Confused All Men THROUGHOUT History, And Great Figures Questioned Without Any Answers, Can Finally Be Shared With My Dear Friends Today (as a confidential message, TakeCare Apply, in a historical event of King Arthur as an anecdotal example.)
This is a very interesting story and a lesson for men.

(To men) Please take time to ponder. 😕

(To women) Just enjoy the story. 😋

Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighbouring kingdom.

The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur’s youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death.

The question was:
What do women really want?

Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man. And to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch’s proposition to have an answer by year’s end.

He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men, and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.

Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the price would be high as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.

The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but first he would have to agree to her price.

The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table, and Arthur’s closest friend. Young Arthur was horrified.

She was hunch-backed and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc.

He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life. He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden.

But Lancelot, having learnt of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur’s life. And the reservation of the Round Table. Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered.

Arthur’s question thus:
“What a woman really wants?”

She said, “A woman wants to be in charge of her own life.”

Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth, and that Arthur’s life would be spared. And so it was. The neighbouring monarch granted Arthur his freedom. And Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.

The honeymoon hour approached and, Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom.

But,
What A Sight Awaited Him!!!

The most beautiful woman he had ever seen was sitting by the bed.

The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened.

The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth become her horrible and deformed self only half the time, and be the beautiful maiden the other half.

“Which would you prefer?”

She asked him- “BEAUTIFUL during the Day…
OR at NIGHT?”

Lancelot pondered the predicament…

During the day, he could have a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch!

OR,

Would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day??
But by night, a Beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous moments with??

(If you are a man reading this)
What would YOUR choice be?
And Lancelot’s choice is given below…

BUT, please make YOUR choice first before you scroll down below!

OKAY?

Knowing the answer the witch gave to Arthur for his question,,,,,
Sir Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself.

Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time, because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.

Now,
What is the moral to this story???
The moral is…

1. There is a ‘witch’ in every woman, no matter how beautiful she is. It’s how you manage her, that’s Counted.

2. If you let a woman decide on her own –
She Gives You The Best! But, if U force her with your decisions, That’s When she becomes a witch.

So,

Be Careful How You Treat A Woman!!!

March 27

When I Die…

When I die
when my coffin
is being taken out
you must never think
I am missing this world

don’t shed any tears
don’t lament or
feel sorry
I’m not falling
into a monster’s abyss

when you see
my corpse is being carried
don’t cry for my leaving
I’m not leaving
I’m arriving at eternal love

when you leave me
in the grave
don’t say goodbye
remember a grave is
only a curtain
for the paradise behind

you’ll only see me
descending into a grave
now watch me rise
how can there be an end
when the sun sets or
the moon goes down

It looks like the end
It seems like a sunset
but in reality it is a dawn
when the grave locks you up
that is when your soul is freed

have you ever seen
a seed fallen to earth
not rise with a new life
why should you doubt the rise
of a seed named human

have you ever seen
a bucket lowered into a well
coming back empty
why lament for a soul
when it can come back
like Joseph from the well

when for the last time
you close your mouth
your words and soul
will belong to the world of
no place no time.

August 30

The Power of Prayers

One of the best ways to assist your evolution into higher consciousness and stabilise your sixth sense so that you become an evolved being is to pray. Prayer immediately raises your personal vibration and ushers more light into your body, opens your heart chakra, which in turn activates your sixth sense and connects you with your Higher Self. Prayer isn’t complicated or difficult.

It is simply the practice of communicating on an intimate heart-to-heart level with your Creator.
When you pray you ask your personal ego to step aside and you surrender your personal energy over to a Higher Power, asking it to work through you, to bring about balance and healing.

Prayer allows Divine power to do for you what your own personal power and resources operating on a five sensory level can’t. Just in case you don’t already know this, in blind study after blind study, research shows that prayer works, so even science confirms that prayer is probably a good idea.
Prayer heals. Prayer calms. Prayer strengthens. Prayer balances and restores order. Prayer attracts solutions that we could never even imagine possible, which is what we call miracles. Prayer is a direct link to heaven and keeps us plugged into our source.

Some people wonder if there is a correct way to pray. I believe the answer to this is, “Yes, there is. Your way.” Prayer is such a personal and intimate connection with Divine Source that the right way to pray is in whatever way you personally intuitively feel moved to pray. After all, prayer, like everything else soulful, is an art, and your prayer is your art.

The other day I went to my computer to log onto the Internet for something and much to my dismay there was something wrong with my computer and I couldn’t establish the connection I had wanted to.

I felt frustrated and really disappointed that I was unable to gain access to this vast and free resource when I really needed it. Praying is very similar to logging on to the Internet, only better.
It is spiritually logging on to Divine Wisdom, the ultimate resource for needed support and guidance.
Like everything else that connects us to our sixth sense, prayer is most effective when practiced. That means we should pray all the time, until it becomes automatic.

Pray when you first wake up in the morning.
Pray when you take a shower.
Pray before your drink your morning coffee and when you drive to work.
Pray for direction, for the easiest and best way to get through your day.
Pray for inspiration, and for your health.
Pray for success in your projects and for patience when those around you get on your nerves.
Pray for forgiveness and an open heart.
Pray for the answer to your problems and where to find your car keys.
Pray for creative inspiration and for better health.
Pray to release the past and to open your mind and heart to a better future.
Pray for the willingness to let go of the old and outdated and reach out for something new.
Pray for understanding.
Pray for faith. Pray for peace. Pray for a happy heart in spite of everything. That’s just for starters. You can then begin to pray for others, and their well-being. Pray for your family, your job, and your co-workers. Pray for your enemies and your competition.
And most of all, pray for the world and world peace.

In fact, pray for everything you can think of.

When you pray you instantly raise your personal vibration to a higher and more harmonious energy pattern. This higher vibration has a healing effect on your physical and emotional body.
It calms your anxiety, soothes your nerves, and eases your tension. It has helped relieve high blood pressure, lift depression, and cure sickness, although the scientists aren’t sure how. In fact prayer has even been known to cause miracles!

Prayer is basic training for anyone who wants to become a six-sensory being. It not only opens you up to receiving assistance from a higher power, it also relieves you of the stress of “figuring things out” for yourself. Prayer simply turns things over to Divine Source for solution and takes the pressure off of you. One of the hallmarks of a six sensory being is the absence of worry over how things will work out.

There are no instructions when it comes to prayer. Pray whenever you feel like it, about anything you feel like, and in whatever way you feel like.

Don’t worry if you are doing it right. God knows better than you, what you mean and need.
The point of prayer is not so much what you pray for, or how, because we are often confused when we pray, but that in praying we allow for Divine Spirit to enter into our hearts and into our lives to straighten things out.

The beauty of prayer is that with it God does straighten things out and always better than we could have asked for or imagined.

May 17

The Laws of Death

Imam Ali al-Hadi (peace be upon him) has said: “Remember when you are on your deathbed and your body is lying before your family members, then there is no physician to prevent you (from death) nor a friend to avail you.” (Bihar al-Anwar) When most of us are around a dying or deceased person, whether it is someone we love and feel close to or perhaps somebody we may not be so familiar with, we are overcome with a sense of confusion, shock, nervousness, and fear. It is unfortunate that during this time, the people surrounding the near-death person often forego some of the obligatory and recommended acts and supplications. According to the Ahlul Bayt (peace be upon them), if these acts are performed correctly for the sake of Allah, not only is there reward for the persons who carry out those funeral rites, but there is also great potential for the deceased to be rewarded with a better final destination, insha’Allah.



On the Deathbed



A Muhtadir is a dying person. A person becomes Muhtadir when death becomes apparent to one, and for example, is told that (s)he only has an hour or so to live and is nearing the final breath. At this stage, there are certain Islamic laws and rulings which become obligatory in regard to the Muhtadir.



Editor’s Note: The jurisprudential issues mentioned in this article are based on the rulings of Grand Ayatollah Sayyid Ali Sistani. The rulings referenced are from his book Ahkam al-Amwat (Rules Relating to the Deceased), translated into English by Shaikh Saleem Bhimji and available online.



Obligatory Rules Relating to a Person in the State of Ihtidar



Asking for Forgiveness: Regardless of how pious and God-fearing one may be, asking for forgiveness for sins is an act which even the sinless and infallible Ahlul Bayt would practice. Imam Sadiq (peace be upon him) has said: “When a believing Muslim frequently asks Allah for forgiveness, his record (of deeds) will ascend while it will be glowing.” (Makarim al-Akhlaq)



The Will Relating to the Rights of Others: Imam Sadiq has said, “One who dies without a will dies the death of one during the Days of Ignorance (pre-Islamic age).” (Wasail al-Shia) In addition to the specific rules governing an Islamic will, it must be noted that if the Muhtadir has any property or trust in his/her possession which rightfully belongs to someone else, or if the Muhtadir owes something to someone and is not able to fulfill the trust or pay back that which he owes, then this must be informed to those around the dying person. (Ruling #7) Imam Sadiq has said: “In no way is Allah worshipped better than by fulfilling the right of a believer.” (Al-Kafi)



The Will Relating to the Wajib Actions that Have Become Qadha: If the Muhtadir has not performed any obligatory actions in his life (for any reason whatsoever) and they have now become delayed or Qadha, this should be written in the will or at least others should be informed. For example, a person’s will may include the following: one year of missed Salat, five missed fasts due to sickness, one month of fasts voluntarily missed (and any Kaffara on fasts), Hajj not performed, $200 of unpaid Khums, $1000 of unpaid Zakat, etc. (Ruling #8)



Rules Relating to People Around a Person in the State of Ihtidar



Lay the Dying Person Facing the Qibla: It is obligatory upon every Muslim to lay a dying person facing the Qibla (on his/her back with the soles of the feet facing the Qibla), and if the dying person consents to it, there is no need to seek permission from the guardian. Otherwise, the permission must be sought. (Ruling #35, 37) Once while visiting a Muhtadir person, the Holy Prophet said: “Make this man face towards the Qibla, because if you do this, then the angels will turn their attention towards him, and Allah will also turn His attention to him until he leaves this world.” (Thawab al-A’mal)



The Recommended Rules: The shahadatain of Islam (testimony in Allah and His Messenger), the acknowledgment of the 12 Imams, and the other tenets of faith be repeated to the dying person in such a manner that he or she would understand them. It is also recommended that these things recited to him are repeated until the time of his or her death. (Ruling 38) The Infallibles have taught us, “At the time of death, one should recite La Ilaha Illallah to the dying person, since whoever’s last words are the La Ilaha Illallah will go to Paradise.” (Thawab al-A’mal) The Muhtadir should be carried to the place where (s)he used to offer prayers, as long as doing so would not cause pain to the person. (Ruling #40) For a person in the agony of death, it is recommended to recite Surah Ya Sin, Surah as-Safaat, Surah al-Ahzab, Ayat al-Kursi, the 54th verse of Surah of al-Aaraf, the last three verses of Surah al-Baqarah by his side, and as much as possible from the Holy Qur’an. (Ruling #41)



Recommended Du’as to be Recited: Recitation of the following du’a to the Muhtadir in a way that (s)he may understand it is recommended: “O Allah! Forgive my sins, which are many, and accept the little I have done in Your servitude. O the one who accepts the little (good deeds) and forgives the many (sins). Accept from me the little (good deeds) and forgive the many (sins). Truly, You are the Forgiver and the Merciful. O Allah, have mercy on me, truly You are the Merciful.” (Ruling #39) The recitation of Du’a Adeela is recommended, as well as recitation of a number of short supplications in which the shahadatain is repeated, Allah is acknowledged as the ultimate guardian, the Day of Resurrection is mentioned, and prayers are made for acceptance of good deeds and mercy.



Preparing the Body for Burial



Once the person has departed from this world, it is recommended to shut the eyes and lips, close the mouth, straighten the hands and feet, and spread a cloth over the dead body.



Obligatory Rules While Preparing the Body for Burial



The Wajib actions while preparing the body for burial become the obligation of the rightful guardian of the deceased, and if there is no guardian, then all surrounding Muslims become responsible. If any one person takes up the responsibility, then all others will be relieved of the responsibility; however, if nobody attend to the dead body as prescribed, then all will be considered sinful. Please refer to Ahkam al-Amwat for detailed information regarding this responsibility.



Ghusl al-Mayyit: Ghusl al-Mayyit is the obligatory bath for the deceased consisting of three washes/Ghusls. The first bathing should be with water mixed with “Sidr” (Beri) leaves. The second bathing should be with water mixed with camphor. The third should be with unmixed water. (Ruling #52) For full details, please refer to the Ahkam al-Amwat link mentioned above. Imam Sadiq has said: “There is not a single believer who gives another believer the Ghusl (after his death) and while shifting, the body says: ‘O Allah, this is the body of your believing slave. You have taken his soul from him and separated his soul from him, so forgive his sins, forgive his sins’ except that Allah forgives that person (who is performing the Ghusl) his sins for one year, except the major sins.” (Ahkam al-Amwat)



Kafan and Hunut: Kafan is the obligatory three pieces of cloth used (loin cloth, a shirt or tunic, and a full cover) to dress the deceased after the obligatory Ghusl al-Mayyit. Hunut is the obligatory application of camphor powder to the forehead, both the palms, both the knees, and both the big toes of its feet after the Ghusl has been performed. (Ruling #100) Imam Sadiq said: “My father (Imam Baqir) recommended me that I should provide a (good) Kafan for him, since the deceased will have pride over one another according to the type of Kafan that they have.” (Wasail al-Shia) It is in fact highly recommended for one to purchase and keep his/her Kafan in his/her lifetime. For full details on how to properly execute the Kafan and Hunut, please refer to the Ahkam al-Amwat link mentioned previously.



Salat al-Mayyit: It is obligatory to offer Salat al-Mayyit (funeral prayers) for every Muslim, as well as for a Muslim child if it has completed 6 years of its age (or a younger child who was aware of what prayer is). Salat al-Mayyit should be offered after the dead body has been given Ghusl, Hunut, and Kafan. The intention for the Salat al-Mayyit and the recitation of the five Takbirs will slightly differ depending on the type of deceased person, the detail of which can be found in Ahkam al-Amwat. The followers of the Ahlul Bayt recite five Takbirs in Salat al-Mayyit, while the non-Shias recite only four Takbirs. When Imam Sadiq was asked about this difference, the Imam replied, “Since Islam is built on five strong pillars, which are Salat, Zakat, Saum, Hajj, and the Wilayat of us, the Ahul Bayt. Therefore, Allah designated that one Takbir be recited for each of these pillars (of Islam), and our Shia have confirmed their belief in each of these five pillars of Islam, while those who are opposed to us do not believe in our Wilayat, the fifth pillar; thus, they only recite four Takbirs, and the Shia recite five.” (Wasail al-Shia)





Before Burial



Transporting the Mayyit: While the deceased is transported from one place to another, a coffin is traditionally used. A short du’a admiring the greatness of Allah should be recited.



Procession: The procession is when the body is carried from the place of Ghusl to the graveyard. Those accompanying the procession should recite a short du’a that asks Allah to pardon the deceased while testifying one’s belief in the Ahlul Bayt. The body should be carried haltingly, that is, the coffin should be placed on the ground and carried three times, such that the fourth halt is by the grave.



Burial



This is when the deceased is laid to rest in a grave in a Muslim graveyard on his/her right side facing the Qibla. The grave must be deep enough that its smell does not come out, nor does it allow beasts of prey to dig it out.





Recommended Acts of the Burial



Talqeen: Talqeen is usually performed before closing the grave. (Please note that the Talqeen may be performed at various stages while preparing the body for burial, i.e. while preparing the Kafan, etc.) Talqeen is performed by the person laying the deceased in the grave. (S)he should perform Talqeen by way of holding the right and left shoulders of the deceased and shaking them gently while speaking into the deceased’s ear. Talqeen is performed to remind the deceased of the answers to the questions which angels will ask during interrogation in the grave. These questions include: Who is your Lord? Who is your Prophet? What is your religion? What is your book? Who are your Holy Imams? For the complete Talqeen to be read to the deceased, please click here.



It has been narrated that the angel of death watches which people offer their prayers on time and which people take their prayers lightly by not praying on time or not praying all together. Accordingly, those who had weak faith and didn’t pray will forget the answers to the questions in the grave (even if Talqeen is performed), whereas one who had strong faith and always prayed as soon as the time set in will be reminded of the answers by the questioning angels. So if there are any outstanding missed prayers of a believer as outlined in the Will or told to others, they should be performed as soon as possible to benefit the deceased. (Manazil-e-Akhira)



Jarida: Jarida is to place two pieces of fresh, green leafless twigs in the grave with the dead body. One twig should be placed below the armpit and the other twig should be placed above the armpit. (Ruling #108) The Ahlul Bayt really emphasized the importance of Jarida, as they said that as long as the twigs remained green and fresh, the deceased will be free from the squeezing of the grave.



It is also recommended to place some Khak-e-Shifa (soil from the grave of Imam Hussain) inside the grave and apply it to the forehead, palms, knees, and big toes, as this will protect the dead from chastisement of the grave.





After Burial



Recitation of Surah Fatiha while facing the Qibla and gifting the reward to the dwellers of a graveyard is one of the easiest things to do. This can be performed from anywhere.



Salat al-Wahshat: Washa al-Qabr means “terror of the grave”. The first night after the person is buried is known to be the most difficult. According to scholars, performing Salat al-Wahshat for the deceased person is a way of relieving him/her of the terror faced in the grave. The more people that offer this prayer for the deceased, the better it is. This prayer is performed after the Isha prayers. In the first rak’at, we recite Ayat al-Kursi after Sura Fatiha. In the second rak’at, recite Sura Qadr ten times after Sura Fatiha. Then we say, “O Allah, bless Muhammad and his Family, and give the reward of this prayer to [name of deceased].”



Visting the Graveyard: Although visiting the graveyard may be like sprinkling salt on open wounds, our Imams have told us that doing so comforts the grave dwellers and is highly recommended. When Imam Ali al-Ridha was asked, “Does a believer who has passed away know those people who visit the grave?” The Imam replied, “Of course, he is acquainted with those who visit him as long as they are sitting beside the grave. As soon as they get up from his grave side and leave, the fear takes over the person in the grave because of his leaving.” (Wasail al-Shia)



Rights of the Grieving Family: We should offer condolences to one who has lost someone. However, if the time lapse between the death and when one is able to offer condolences is long and will bring up sad memories to the family of the deceased, it is obviously not recommended to offer condolences. The Holy Prophet has said: “Whoever offers condolences to one who is grieving will be clothed with a beautiful and respectful robe on the Day of Judgment.” (Thawab al-Amal)



Although we may like to spend most of the first few days with the family of a deceased person, it is best to avoid eating a meal with them for the first three days. Imam Sadiq has said, “Eating food with the members of the family of the deceased is one of the actions of the people of Ignorance. However, the way of Islam is that food should be sent to their house, just as the Prophet did after the passing away of Ja’far ibn Abi Talib.” (Wasail al-Shia)





In Conclusion



Despite Islam’s emphasis on constantly remembering death, it is a topic considered taboo in the West. As true believers, death is something we must constantly think about and in fact look forward to. In the words of one scholar, death is nothing but reunion with the Beloved.



Shaikh Abbas al-Qummi mentions in Manazil-e-Akhira:



“At the time of death, the Holy Prophet and the Ahlul Bayt come near the head of the dying person, who is able to see them. It is narrated in Bihar al-Anwar that once Imam Ali al-Ridha (peace be upon him) went to meet one of his companions who was about to die. He looked towards the Imam and said, ‘I see the radiant faces of your Grandfather (the Holy Prophet), Your Father (the Commander of the faithful), Your Mother (Hazrat Fatema), and the other Imams in your ancestry. I also see your luminous face along with them.’ It is a fact that every dying man has a glimpse of the Ahlul Bayt according to his love for and knowledge of them. For a believer, their sight is a blessing from Allah, and for a hypocrite and disbeliever, it is a sign of Allah’s wrath.”



Reference: http://islamicinsights.com/religion/religion/the-laws-of-death.html



Author: Zara Syed

May 14

The Finer Thought

Imam Mohammad Al -Baqir has said:

“Haseebu qabla an tuhasibu” – “Do your accounting before the accounting is done for you”

The poem below sums up how our each day should be:

The Finer Thought

How fine it is at night to say:

“I have not wronged a soul to-day.

I have not by a word or deed,

In any breast sowed anger’s seed,

Or caused a fellow being pain;

Nor is there on my crest a stain

That shame has left. In honour’s way,

With head erect, I’ve lived this day.”

When night slips down and day departs

And rest returns to weary hearts,

How fine it is to close the book

Of records for the day, and look

Once more along the traveled mile

And find that all has been worthwhile;

To say: “In honour I have toiled;

My plume is spotless and unsoiled.”

Yet cold and stern a man may be

Retaining his integrity;

And he may pass from day to day

A spirit dead, in living clay,

Observing strictly morals, laws,

Yet serving but a selfish cause;

So it is not enough to say:

“I have not stooped to shame to-day!”

It is a finer, nobler thought

When day is done and night has brought

The contemplative hours and sweet,

And rest to weary hearts and feet,

If man can stand in truth and say:

“I have been useful here to-day.

Back there is one I chanced to see

with hope newborn because of me.

“This day in honour I have toiled;

My shining crest is still unsoiled;

But on the mile I leave behind

Is one who says that I was kind;

And someone hums a cheerful song

Because I chanced to come along.”

Sweet rest at night that man shall own

Who has not lived his day alone.

 

BY: Edgar A. Guest

May 8

Seven Qualities that Allah Loves and does Not Love

Seven Qualities that Allah Loves

  1. TAWBAH (Repentance) “For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly (in repentance)” [Surah Al Baqarah 2:222]

  2. TAHARAH (Purification) “Allah loves those who keep themselves pure and clean.” [Surah Al Baqarah 2:222]

  3. TAQWA (Piety) “For Allah loves the righteous (the pious).” [Surah Al Tawbah 9:4]

  4. IHSAN (Goodness & Perfection) “For Allah loves those who do good” [Surah Ali ‘Imran 3:134]

  5. TAWAKKUL (Trust in Allah) “For Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him).” [Surah Ali ‘Imran 3:159]

  6. ADL (Justice) “For Allah loves those who judge in equity.” [Surah Al Ma’idah 5:42] “For Allah loves those who are fair (and just).” [Surah Al Hujurat 49:9]

  7. SABR (Patience) “And Allah Loves those who are firm and steadfast (As-Sabirin (the patient)).” [Surah Ali ‘Imran 3:146]

Seven Qualities that Allah does not Love

  1. ISRAAF (Extravagance) “But waste not by excess: for Allah loves not the wasters (Al- Musrifun (those who waste by extravagance)).” [Surah Al An’am 6:141]

  2. ISTIKBAAR (Pride) “Verily He loves not the arrogant (proud).” [Surah Al Nahl 16:23]

  3. MUKHTAL FAKHOOR (Arrogant boaster) “For Allah loves not any arrogant boaster.” [Surah Luqman 31:18]

  4. UDWAAN (Transgression) “For Allah loves not transgressors.” [Surah Al Ma’idah 5:87]

  5. ZULM (Evil, Wrongdoing) “But Allah loves not those who do wrong (Zalimun (oppressors, polytheists and wrong doers)).” [Surah Ali ‘Imran 3:57]

  6. KHIYAANAH (Treachery) “For Allah loves not the treacherous.” [Surah Al Anfal 8:58]

  7. MUFSIDEEN (Mischief-makers) “And Allah loves not those who do mischief.” [Surah Al Ma’idah 5:64]


THE DONKEY

One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey.He invited all his neighbours to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realizing what was happening cried horribly. Then, to everyone’s amazement he quieted down.A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.As the farmer’s neighbours continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!

MORAL:

Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt.

The trick of getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up.

Each of our troubles is a steppingstone.

We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up!

Shake it off and take a step up.

Remember five simple rules to be happy:

  1. Free your heart from hatred – Forgive.

  2. Free your mind from worries – Most never happen.

  3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.

  4. Give more.

  5. Expect less

September 3

Need Washing

A little girl had been shopping with her Mom in Wal Mart. She must have been 6 years old, this beautiful red haired, freckle faced image of innocence.



It was pouring outside. The kind of rain that gushes over the top of rain gutters, so much in a hurry to hit the earth it has no time to flow down the spout. We all stood there, under the awning, just inside the door of the Wal Mart. We waited, some patiently, others irritated because nature messed up their hurried day.



I am always mesmerised by rainfall. I got lost in the sound and sight of the heavens washing away the dirt and dust of the world. Memories of running, splashing so carefree as a child came pouring in as a welcome reprieve from the worries of my day.



Her little voice was so sweet as it broke the hypnotic trance we were all caught in, “Mom let’s run through the rain,” she said.



“What?” Mom asked.



“Let’s run through the rain!” she repeated.



“No, honey. We’ll wait until it slows down a bit,” Mom replied.



This young child waited a minute and repeated: “Mom, let’s run through the rain.”



“We’ll get soaked if we do,” Mom said.



“No, we won’t, Mom. That’s not what you said this morning,” the young girl said as she tugged at her Mom’s arm.



“This morning? When did I say we could run through the rain and not get wet?”



“Don’t you remember? When you were talking to Daddy about his cancer, you said, ‘If God can get us through this, He can get us through anything!’”



The entire crowd stopped dead silent. I swear you couldn’t hear anything but the rain. We all stood silently. No one left. Mom paused and thought for a moment about what she would say.



Now some would laugh it off and scold her for being silly. Some might even ignore what was said. But this was a moment of affirmation in a young child’s life. A time when innocent trust can be nurtured so that it will bloom into faith.



“Honey, you are absolutely right. Let’s run through the rain. If GOD let’s us get wet, well maybe we just need washing,” Mom said.



Then off they ran. We all stood watching, smiling and laughing as they darted past the cars and yes, through the puddles. They got soaked.



They were followed by a few who screamed and laughed like children all the way to their cars. And yes, I did.

I ran. I got wet. I needed washing.



Circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health. But no one can ever take away your precious memories … so, don’t forget to make time and take the opportunities to make memories every day.



To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under heaven. I HOPE YOU STILL TAKE THE TIME TO RUN THROUGH THE RAIN.



They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them.



Take the time to live!!! Keep in touch with your friends, you never know when you’ll need each other ― and don’t forget to run in the rain!

August 17

My Mother’s Hands

Eid was nearing and I felt it was necessary to get my Mother a new Abaya (Cloak or Jilbab) as her other Abayas were frail and worn out. I stopped by on Saturday morning and told my mum to come along as I have a surprise for her.

I don’t normally like to go shopping and I’m not a patient person, but we set off for the mall together. We visited nearly every Islamic Clothing Store that carried ladies’ Abayas, and my mother tried on many. We were so undecided as some were too huge and others too small … some were just right but the colour was not so smart, etc.

As the day wore on, I grew weary. Finally, at our last stop, my mother tried on a lovely Brown Abaya that had lovely beige ribbon trimmings. The Abaya had some bows in front. As I stood in the dressing room with her, I watched as she tried, with much difficulty, to tie the bows. Her hands were so badly crippled from arthritis that she couldn’t do it. Immediately, my impatience gave way to an overwhelming wave of compassion for her. I turned away to try and hide the tears that welled up involuntarily. Regaining my composure, I turned back to tie the bow for her.

Our shopping trip was over, but the event was etched indelibly in my memory. For the rest of the day, my mind kept returning to that moment in the dressing room and to the vision of my mother’s hands trying to tie that bow. Those loving hands that had fed me, bathed me, dressed me, caressed and comforted me, and, most of all, prayed for me, were now touching me in the most remarkable manner.

Later in the evening, I went to my mother’s room, took her hands in mine, kissed them and, much to her surprise, told her that to me they were the most beautiful hands in the world. Tears started following profusely from her aged and weak eyes as I narrated how I appreciated all that her beautiful hands had done for me since I could remember. I could not forget how she stood at my bed side for days and fed me with those beautiful hands while I recovered from an accident. I was aged 17 at that time. Today at 33 and I can only pray that some day Allah will let my hands, and my heart achieve such a beauty of their own.

Eid morning came and before the Eid prayer I entered my aged mother’s room and requested the honour of tying the bow on her beautiful Abaya. She gently nodded her head. My eyes soaked with tears … my heart filled with gratitude. I thanked Allah for this great honour on this beautiful day of Eid.

“We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents: In pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth.” (Quran- Surah al-Ahqaf; 46: 15)

The Prophet Muhammad is reported to have said: “Jannah lies under the feet of your mother”.

The Noble Messenger of Allah (saww) said, ‘Come near the pulpit,’ and we came near the pulpit. When he ascended the first step of the pulpit, he said, ‘Ameen.’ When he ascended the second step, he said, ‘Ameen.’ When he ascended the third step, he said, ‘Ameen.’

When he descended, we said, ‘O Prophet of Allah (saww), we have heard from you today something which we never heard before.’

He said, ‘When I ascended the first step, Jibra’eel appeared before me and said, ‘Woe to him who found the blessed Month of Ramadan and let it pass by without gaining forgiveness.’ Upon that I said: Ameen.

When I ascended the second step, he said, ‘Woe to him before whom your name is mentioned and he does not read / send blessings on you’. I replied: Ameen.

When I ascended the third step he said, ‘Woe to him in whose presence his parents or either one of them attains old age, and (through failure to serve them) he is not allowed to enter Paradise’. I said: Ameen.”

August 8

Please Send My Son Back!

A poor couple who lived in a small village in Pakistan. They had only one son, so they gave him the best education. The son graduated as an Engineer in the nearby city.

Eventually, he got married to a rich girl. Initially, they lived with his parents in the village. Soon the wife got tired of village life and persuaded the husband to move to the city leaving the old parents in the village.

As time went, the husband saw an advert in the newspaper about a vacancy in Jeddah. He applied and was successful. He lived in Jeddah for years with his wife. Regularly he used to send money to parents. Eventually with time he stopped and forgot about his parents ever existed.

Every year, he performed Hajj, but immediately after that he used to see someone telling him in a dream that his Hajj is not accepted.

One day he related the story to a pious Aalim who advised him to go back to Pakistan to visit his parents. The man flew to Pakistan and reached the boundary of the village. Everything had changed. He could not find his house.

He asked a small boy about the whereabouts of so and so. The little boy directed the man to a house and said: “In this house lives an old blind lady who lost her husband a few months ago. She has a son who migrated to Saudi Arabia years back and never came back again. What an unfortunate man?”

The son enters the home and finds his mother on the bed. He tip-toed as not to wake her up. He hears the mother whispering or mumbling something. He gets closer to hear her voice. This is what the mother was saying:

“Ya Allah! I am now very old and blind. My husband just died. There is no Mahram (near relative) to lower me in my grave when I die. So please send my son back to fulfill my last wish”.

The moral of this dua is that the sincere DUA of a every mother is accepted.

“O Son, love your mom till the end of your life. The lady who suffered so much pain just to give you a beautiful life!”